It Gets Better (videos)

An Important Message from Ellen About Bullying


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From Dan's column about Billy Lucas:
"Billy Lucas was just 15 when he hanged himself in a barn on his grandmother's property. He reportedly endured intense bullying at the hands of his classmates—classmates who called him a fag and told him to kill himself. His mother found his body.... I wish I could have talked to this kid for five minutes. I wish I could have told Billy that it gets better. I wish I could have told him that, however bad things were, however isolated and alone he was, it gets better.
"But gay adults aren't allowed to talk to these kids. Schools and churches don't bring us in to talk to teenagers who are being bullied. Many of these kids have homophobic parents who believe that they can prevent their gay children from growing up to be gay—or from ever coming out—by depriving them of information, resources, and positive role models.
"Why are we waiting for permission to talk to these kids? We have the ability to talk directly to them right now. We don't have to wait for permission to let them know that it gets better. We can reach these kids."
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Bullying in high schools, gays, fear, and Toronto Maple Leaf's GM Brian Burke takes on bullying
A video about high school bullying that involves gays and bullying.
Brian Burke launches new anti-bullying website aimed at fighting homophobia

The Trevor Project
The Trevor Lifeline 866 4-U-TREVOR 866-488-7386
The website also has a Trevor Chat - Live chat with trained volunteers
*information below is from the website*
Often times, a suicidal person may indicate in some way that they plan to attempt suicide. Here are some warning signs you should know about. (NOTE: Refrain from using the phrase "commit(ed) suicide." Instead, use "completed suicide" or "died by suicide" when describing a fatal suicide attempt).
Warning Signs:
* Increased Isolation – From family and friends * Alcohol or Drug Use Increases
* Expression of negative attitude toward self
* Expression of hopelessness or helplessness
* Change in Regular Behavior
* Loss of interest in usual activities
* Giving away valued possessions
* Expression of a lack of future orientation (i.e. "It won't matter soon anyway")
* Expressing Suicidal Feelings
* Signs of Depression
* Describes a Specific Plan for Suicide
* History of Suicide in the Family
* A person who has been extremely depressed in the past may be at an increased risk for suicide if the depression begins to cease, as they may now have the psychological energy to follow through on a suicidal ideation.
If you or someone you care about displays any of these warning signs, please do not hesitate to call The Trevor Lifeline at: 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386) to speak with a trained volunteer counselor.

Dr. Phil - Bullying Is Not Ok
Dr. Phil addresses the alarming rise of teens taking their lives due to bullying. Parents, heed the call to action.

The Official Dr. Phil Show page on Youtube!

Dr. Phil Turning Point - The Official Blog of Dr. Phil

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Dr. Phil McGraw has galvanized millions of people to "get real" about their own behavior and create more positive lives. Dr. Phil, his syndicated, daily one-hour series, is the second highest rated daytime talk show in the nation. The show has been making headlines and breaking records since its September 2002 launch, when it garnered the highest ratings of any new syndicated show since the launch of The Oprah Winfrey Show 16 years prior.

Lady Gaga rallies for 'don't ask, don't tell' repeal in Maine

A message from Lady Gaga to the Senate Sept 16 2010

Lady Gaga Activists on Gay and Civil Rights

President Barack Obama on Gay and Civil Rights

Anti-Gay Rhetoric Causes Psychological Harm and Suicides - CNN iReport
A video that first shows Anti-Gay Rhetoric linked to hate and rejection followed by a video that shows IT GETS BETTER participants discuss how they felt and suicide.

[1] ANTI-GAY QUOTES from the video:
- Reparative Therapy based on the theory that gay people can be turned into heterosexuals through a combination of prayer and will power;
- The gay and lesbian lifestyle is personal bondage, personal despair, and personal enslavement;
- It's a sad life;
- It's part of Satan;
- Individuals who have gone into the lifestyle have been abused at one time in their life, either by a male or female;
- As if we need to understand that barbarians need to be educated. They need to be disciplined and just because someone feels it or thinks it doesn't mean that we are supposed to go down that road;

[2] IT GETS BETTER: thoughts of acceptance/rejection and suicide.
QUOTES OF ANTI-GAY RHETORIC and IT GETS BETTER thoughts of acceptance/rejection and suicide.
Anti-Gay Rhetoric Causes Psychological Harm and Suicides.


[discrimination] Justice Department will no longer defend DOMA in legal challenges, unconstitutional - CNN
Washington (CNN)– President Barack Obama has ordered the Justice Department to stop defending the constitutionality of the Defense of Marriage Act, which defines marriage as only between a man and woman, according to a statement Wednesday from Attorney General Eric Holder. -- "The president has concluded that given a number of factors, including a documented history of discrimination, classifications based on sexual orientation should be subject to a more heightened standard of scrutiny," Holder said.
The key provisions in the law "fails to meet that standard and is therefore unconstitutional." -- "Given that conclusion, the president has instructed the (Justice Department) not to defend the statute" in two pending cases in New York state, Holder said. "I fully concur with the president's determination."


Supreme Court gives two big victories for gay rights

Supreme Court rulings on same-sex marriage hailed as historic victory

Obama's full statement on same-sex marriage ruling

Prop 8 plaintiff: Our family is equal
CNN Newsroom|Added on June 26, 2013Kris Perry, plaintiff in the Supreme Court's Prop 8 case, talks about the impact of the ruling on children and families.

Toobin: DOMA is gone
CNN Newsroom|Added on June 26, 2013In a landmark decision, the Supreme Court strikes down a federal provision denying benefits to legally married couples.

Hollywood celebrates SCOTUS decision: Guess who's getting hitched?

Windsor: We won everything we asked for
CNN|Added on June 26, 2013Plaintiff Edie Windsor speaks to reporters after the U.S. Supreme Court ruling on the Defense of Marriage Act.

Toobin: Prop 8 ruling 'puzzling'
CNN Newsroom|Added on June 26, 2013Jeffrey Toobin breaks down the Supreme Court's ruling on California's Prop 8 and what it means for same sex marriage.

Kennedy's same-sex marriage legacy
CNN|Added on June 26, 2013Jeffrey Toobin explains how Justice Anthony Kennedy's legacy will be the author of the nation's three biggest same-sex marriage decisions.

Melissa Etheridge: 'A wonderful day'
CNN Newsroom|Added on June 26, 2013Melissa Etheridge talks to CNN on the Supreme Court's same-sex marriage rulings.

Calif. Lt. Gov. on arc of gay marriage
CNN|Added on June 26, 2013Lt. Gov. Gavin Newsom, D-California, said he believes gay marriage will be legal everywhere by the time his kids are 40.

Same-sex marriage ruling: Financial impact

The nation absorbs DOMA decision
Twitter lit up after the Supreme Court struck down DOMA with more than 9000 tweets a minute. Now, same-sex couples who are legally married will receive federal benefits such as social security and death benefits, and surviving spouses will no longer have to pay an estate tax. NBC's Anne Thompson reports.